A wise physician once said, a human needs only "Care and Love" to get rid of all his illness. Someone asked what if that is not enough. The physician replied, "Increase the Dose".....
Simple words but the most toughest and sought after things in the world. These two words "Care - Love" can do great miracles and yet human incapacities can not see them. It is said that Man is one of the most wonderful creation of God. He created man so that man can be happy and make others happy. In today's world, where everyone is tyring to reach the top, man doesn't even care for himself. How can God be so unrealisitic and expect them to be caring and loving to others, when they can't love themselves properly.
To love some, it is important to shed the 'I' and believe in 'Me'. But alas, saying love you to someone itself starts with 'I...Love you'.... If you love someone, there is no need for you to say them every now and then 'I Love You'. Love is a feeling to be felt by two hearts, two souls, who are two on the surface but one from within. If one is happy, the other is happy too. If one is sad, other need not be sad. Instead help him/her oversome the sadness and look the brighter side. However, here also, one big hurdle between two lovers is 'Expectations'.
What are Expectations? In simple words, it means, to look forward to occurence of something; To consider likely or certain. When in Love, expectations are nothing. Have you heard of any case, where a Mother expected her child to prepare dinner for her one day because she did for him/her for years. Or have you heard of anywhere a tree burnt itself because the fruits grew on it were enjoyed by others and not by the tree itself. This is the language of love where no words are needed. Obviously expression of love is very important. But your expression need not be always in words. You care to listen to your beloved when she had had a bad day at work; You care to pick up his loose socks and shirsts lying all across the ground while you have had a hectic day yourself; You cared to arrange for a surprise dinner for her; You cared to wear his favourite color because he had nostalgic feelings since morning and was not in good shape. And there are hundreds of ways which show Love and Care. Alas, we, humans only understand the spoken words and not the messages which such beautiful actions convey. I once read somewhere the moment a child starts speaking, he loses all his true innocence/ past life memories. Else before that time, he dreams about his past life, who he/she was. But once he catches words, his memory is erased. His starts a new life. To become oure again.
We expect our other half/ beloved to accept us as we are. But do we accept them in their totality? Not really. Because we tend to match them with our expectations and tend to bend them. And this is where the relation starts wearing a mask. It loses its originality just like a child loses his when he utters his first words.
We all know that life is for once and to be enjoyed. But we don't do it so. Cause we struggle with our negativities, struggle to compare our past with present and worry for the future. Whereas we all know, Past can't be unwritten and Future can't be rewritten. What can be changed is the Present. This present is actually a beautiful and an important gift of God to us, and hence called 'Present'. But we don't realise it's value until lost.
Dear Readers, my words here and feelings are negative; I am unhappy today; But I am not being prescriptive. I just wanna share with someone out there, who might be as unhappy as me or even worse.
In India, we have a saying 'Yeh Din Bhi Jayega', which simply means, 'This day shall pas on too" You read this in happiness and you feel sad; you read this in sadness and you shall be happy.
Anyone out there feeling sad please remeber, "When the going gets tough, the tough gets going". And someone who is happy out there, "Try to pass on a smile to someone else; Your happiness shall increase manifold"...
Take Care
Simple words but the most toughest and sought after things in the world. These two words "Care - Love" can do great miracles and yet human incapacities can not see them. It is said that Man is one of the most wonderful creation of God. He created man so that man can be happy and make others happy. In today's world, where everyone is tyring to reach the top, man doesn't even care for himself. How can God be so unrealisitic and expect them to be caring and loving to others, when they can't love themselves properly.
To love some, it is important to shed the 'I' and believe in 'Me'. But alas, saying love you to someone itself starts with 'I...Love you'.... If you love someone, there is no need for you to say them every now and then 'I Love You'. Love is a feeling to be felt by two hearts, two souls, who are two on the surface but one from within. If one is happy, the other is happy too. If one is sad, other need not be sad. Instead help him/her oversome the sadness and look the brighter side. However, here also, one big hurdle between two lovers is 'Expectations'.
What are Expectations? In simple words, it means, to look forward to occurence of something; To consider likely or certain. When in Love, expectations are nothing. Have you heard of any case, where a Mother expected her child to prepare dinner for her one day because she did for him/her for years. Or have you heard of anywhere a tree burnt itself because the fruits grew on it were enjoyed by others and not by the tree itself. This is the language of love where no words are needed. Obviously expression of love is very important. But your expression need not be always in words. You care to listen to your beloved when she had had a bad day at work; You care to pick up his loose socks and shirsts lying all across the ground while you have had a hectic day yourself; You cared to arrange for a surprise dinner for her; You cared to wear his favourite color because he had nostalgic feelings since morning and was not in good shape. And there are hundreds of ways which show Love and Care. Alas, we, humans only understand the spoken words and not the messages which such beautiful actions convey. I once read somewhere the moment a child starts speaking, he loses all his true innocence/ past life memories. Else before that time, he dreams about his past life, who he/she was. But once he catches words, his memory is erased. His starts a new life. To become oure again.
We expect our other half/ beloved to accept us as we are. But do we accept them in their totality? Not really. Because we tend to match them with our expectations and tend to bend them. And this is where the relation starts wearing a mask. It loses its originality just like a child loses his when he utters his first words.
We all know that life is for once and to be enjoyed. But we don't do it so. Cause we struggle with our negativities, struggle to compare our past with present and worry for the future. Whereas we all know, Past can't be unwritten and Future can't be rewritten. What can be changed is the Present. This present is actually a beautiful and an important gift of God to us, and hence called 'Present'. But we don't realise it's value until lost.
Dear Readers, my words here and feelings are negative; I am unhappy today; But I am not being prescriptive. I just wanna share with someone out there, who might be as unhappy as me or even worse.
In India, we have a saying 'Yeh Din Bhi Jayega', which simply means, 'This day shall pas on too" You read this in happiness and you feel sad; you read this in sadness and you shall be happy.
Anyone out there feeling sad please remeber, "When the going gets tough, the tough gets going". And someone who is happy out there, "Try to pass on a smile to someone else; Your happiness shall increase manifold"...
Take Care
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